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Down with the Patriarchy: Reclaiming the Power of My Voice
Growing up as the daughter of two addicts, I learned early that survival sometimes meant silence. As I navigated my life, that silence became more than just a way to protect myself. It became an expectation, a rule enforced by a system that prioritised powerful men and disregarded my story. Each time I tried to…
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Refund on my mental illness please.
If you’ve ever been the family “black sheep” you probably learned quickly that this role often comes with a sharper eye for the truth. It’s a strange position, being the one who sees through facades and recognises the reality behind closed doors. When you see those perfect family photos online, remember that appearances rarely tell…
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Truth Hurts.
I’ve reached my limit with my father’s side of the family. Yesterday, my estranged sister unleashed a flood of accusations, claiming my mother didn’t know who my father was, which is why he’s not listed on my birth certificate. In 40 years, this is the first I’m hearing of it. I was always told the…
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The Cycle of Abandonment.
Abandonment can take many forms physical, emotional, or psychological and its impact is profound. It creates deep-seated wounds that ripple through generations. As you’re probably aware by now, my mother was abandoned at birth and sent to an orphanage in 1968. This foundational loss defined her life, embedding within her a sense of insecurity and…
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The Narcissistic Father’s Brainwashing of His Son: My Ongoing Struggle
Speaking out about abuse is never easy, but for me, it was a necessary step in breaking free and helping other women in similar situations. Yet, what I’ve come to realise is that leaving a narcissist isn’t the end it’s just the beginning of a different kind of torment. The abuse doesn’t stop when the…
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The Poke the Bear Theory.
Relationships are complex, and for those who have experienced trauma, they can be particularly challenging. The “Poke the Bear” theory is an insightful concept that helps explain a specific behaviour pattern often seen in trauma survivors. This theory suggests that individuals who have endured significant trauma may, consciously or unconsciously, engage in behaviours that provoke…
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The Hidden Dangers of Inmate-Officer Relationships.
People may not fully understand how often prison officers make inappropriate sexual advances toward inmates; it happens far more frequently than most realise. If your partner works in the prison system, there’s a high chance they’re regularly flirting, if not engaging in more. It’s hard to say why they lack self-control, but the intense environment…
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Stalking Social Media
With stalking making headlines lately, I thought it would be a good time to share some thoughts on the topic. It’s a serious issue that affects many people, and yet it’s often downplayed or misunderstood. Whether it’s an ex-partner, former friend, or even a stranger, the impact of stalking is harmful and invasive, and it’s…
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Slander from the Weak.
In a world where words carry weight and can travel further than ever before, slander has become a dangerous tool for those who seek to hurt others. Slander isn’t just idle gossip or thoughtless rumours, it’s a deliberate, malicious attempt to ruin someone’s reputation through lies. And often, this comes from individuals who feel weak…
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Hypersexuality in Bipolar Disorder.
After everything I went through in my younger years and early 20’s, my libido and sexual desire was non-existent. But in my late 20s things took a turn, my sex drive skyrocketed from non-existent, to through the roof. Even though I had been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, no one mentioned ‘Hypersexuality’ being a symptom and…
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The Lying Narcissist.
Over the years, I’ve encountered my fair share of compulsive lying narcissists. These are the people who thrive on feeding you stories, designed to sweep you off your feet while hiding their real intentions. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone like this, you know exactly how convincing they can be, especially when…
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Narcissistic Sex.
Sex is often considered a taboo topic, making people hesitant to discuss it in a healthy manner. When sex is not openly talked about, it can take on a seedy or shameful connotation. However, sex is a natural part of life, and when shared between two people who care for each other, it can be…
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The Dangers of Sabotage and Character Assassination.
I’d like to address the issues of sabotage and character assassination, as they are challenges I’ve faced throughout my life, both in person and online, and continue to experience even now. Both sabotage and character assassination are dangerous because they can have serious, long-lasting effects on a person’s life. Here’s how: 1. Emotional and Mental…
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Revenge Porn/Nudes and Suicide.
Given that it’s Suicide Prevention Month, I wanted to take this opportunity to discuss the connection between revenge porn/nudes and suicide a topic that’s become increasingly relevant. There have been far too many cases of people taking their own lives after falling victim to revenge porn/nudes. It’s important to remember that if you’ve ever made…
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People-Pleasing.
People-pleasing often stems from growing up in a toxic environment, experiencing narcissistic abuse, or simply lacking boundaries because of a deep desire to be liked. I can pinpoint exactly why I became a people pleaser for so long. As a child, I was caught between my toxic grandmother and mother, who harboured deep resentment towards…
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The Positive Traits of Bipolar Disorder.
When people hear the term “bipolar disorder,” their minds often jump to negative stereotypes or generalisations. A quick online search usually brings up the challenging aspects of the condition, painting a picture of instability and unpredictability. However, this portrayal doesn’t tell the whole story. While bipolar disorder can indeed present challenges, it also comes with…
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Taking Accountability For Your Diagnosis.
We live in a world where you’re criticised no matter what you do. Throughout my life, I’ve worked hard to manage my diagnosis to ensure I didn’t cause my children any trauma. I’ve sought out every resource and authority available, completed every parenting course, and read every recommended book on the subject. I openly acknowledge…
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The Narcissist’s Trap: Why You’re Chosen as Prey.
A narcissist doesn’t select you because he genuinely likes you; they select you because they can use you. The truth is, narcissists are skilled manipulators who target individuals based on their usefulness rather than any real emotional connection. If you have children, that’s even better for them, because you can take on the role of…
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The Narcissistic Father: A Story of Abuse, Manipulation, and a Broken System.
Narcissists have a way of turning lives upside down, leaving a trail of destruction that can take years to mend, if it can be mended at all. My story is one of those tales, where a once seemingly normal relationship turned into a nightmare of abuse, manipulation, and a desperate struggle to protect my son.…
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Flying Monkeys.
It’s crucial to shed light on just how dangerous a narcissistic ex and his “flying monkeys” can be. I continue to endure narcissistic abuse from him and those who support him. Here’s how his flying monkeys have played their roles: First, there was a girl from school who constantly called me to brag about being…
Bipolar Mum Journey 