Bipolar Mum Journey

For decades, I chose silence. I endured, I grew, and I healed in private. I played the long game, winning in silence while others moved on, oblivious to the chaos they left behind. But now I ask myself: What kind of woman am I if I keep my mouth shut while men who shattered lives continue to walk free!

This is not about revenge; it’s about justice and freedom.

I’ve spent years holding onto proof, paper trails of betrayal, manipulation, and pain. I watched my ex move from one failed relationship to another, leaving destruction in his wake. Why did I stay silent? Maybe I believed the world didn’t want to hear me, or maybe I thought silence was strength. But silence isn’t justice. It’s complicity.

Speaking Out Is a Responsibility

When I see women and men exploit systems meant to protect us, I cannot stay quiet. A female officer who sleeps with an inmate to boost her OnlyFans presence, only to later play the victim card? That’s not empowerment; it’s exploitation. A girl accuses a man of rape on social media before even filing a police report? That undermines the credibility of survivors who follow the proper channels, only to be dismissed. People contributing to the humiliation and degradation of drug addicts without any regard for the trauma that got them there? That’s not justice; it’s cruelty.

Remaining silent in the face of such wrongs only perpetuates the cycle. If we want a better world, we must confront these issues, no matter how uncomfortable or inconvenient.

Why Justice Matters

For me, justice means reclaiming my narrative, clearing my name, and shining a light on the dark corners where people like my ex thrive. He dragged my name through the mud, branding me with labels like “crazy” and “psychopath” weaponising the very abuse and trauma I endured to discredit me. I suffered abuse and rape at the hands of multiple predators including him, only to be shamed and branded by the patriarchy for surviving. I refuse to let that shame define me anymore.

Justice is also about accountability. The systems and individuals that enable abusers, exploiters, and manipulators must be called out. The people who excuse their actions or turn a blind eye are complicit. And yes, it takes courage to speak up, especially when you know the backlash will come. But staying silent is not an option anymore, not for me, and not for anyone else who has been silenced for too long.

The Breaking Point

There’s only so much someone with a good heart can take before they break. For nearly 40 years, I endured in silence. But now, the weight of my past used as leverage against me by those who claim to know me has become unbearable. Silence hasn’t given me peace; it’s only allowed others to control my narrative.

I speak out because I have nothing left to lose except the chains that have bound me to the mistakes and misdeeds of others. I speak out because justice and freedom are not luxuries; they’re rights. And I deserve both.

Why Now?

Why not move along silently? Because silence lets abusers, exploiters, and manipulators continue their work without consequences. Why should I condone behavior that degrades the vulnerable, excuses predators, and shames survivors? Why should I let my abusers or anyone else win?

This is not revenge. Revenge is about hurting someone else; justice is about restoring balance. Justice is about exposing the truth, holding people accountable, and ensuring that others don’t have to suffer in silence like I did.

To anyone who asks why I didn’t speak sooner, or why I don’t just let it go: Understand this. Speaking out isn’t easy. As a female you need to gather evidence/paperwork to prove that everything you’re saying is true, otherwise you’re disbelieved by society. It’s terrifying, exhausting, and lonely. But staying silent? That’s a slow death.

I choose life. I choose freedom. I choose justice.

If my story makes you uncomfortable, good. It should. Comfort is what allows these cycles to continue. Change starts with discomfort, with confrontation, with truth.

So no, I will not move along silently anymore. I will fight back not for revenge, but for justice. For myself, for the truth, and for anyone else who has been pushed too far.