Bipolar Mum Journey

Speaking out about abuse is never easy, but for me, it was a necessary step in breaking free and helping other women in similar situations. Yet, what I’ve come to realise is that leaving a narcissist isn’t the end it’s just the beginning of a different kind of torment. The abuse doesn’t stop when the relationship ends. It continues, evolves, and often worsens, especially when a narcissist is skilled at manipulating others to do their dirty work.

In my case, my ex-partner has gone to great lengths to keep the abuse going, and what breaks my heart the most is that he’s using our son to do it. He’s orchestrated a campaign of online harassment, even getting our son to create a WordPress account just to leave abusive comments on my blog. The threats have become so extreme that both my partner and I have received death threats. The abuse isn’t confined to my blog it’s spread across all platforms and even my podcasts. It’s relentless.

I knew that speaking out would come with risks. I knew it could provoke more attacks from my ex, but I also knew it was something I had to do. My story, my struggle, could help other women trapped in the same vicious cycle of abuse. But nothing prepares you for the reality of dealing with a narcissist who will stop at nothing, even weaponising their own child against you.

The heartbreaking part is watching my son get caught up in it all. How sick must a father be to twist his child’s mind, turning him against his own mother? It’s devastating. I’ve even had to notify the care home where my 97-year-old grandmother stays to make sure my ex and my son are kept away. The lengths I have to go to just to protect myself and my loved ones are exhausting.

But I refuse to be silenced. I may be heartbroken by what’s happening to my son, and I may feel a sense of loss over him, but I’m determined. I have stacks of evidence, paperwork proving the years of abuse, not just against me but against his other exes too. This is a pattern, a clear one, and while it’s heartbreaking, I have hope that the truth will come to light.

To any woman reading this who might be in a similar situation, please know that you are not alone. The fight against a narcissist is brutal, and it’s long, but it’s a fight worth fighting. You deserve peace, and you deserve to reclaim your life, no matter how much they try to take from you.