Bipolar Mum Journey

A narcissist doesn’t select you because he genuinely likes you; they select you because they can use you. The truth is, narcissists are skilled manipulators who target individuals based on their usefulness rather than any real emotional connection. If you have children, that’s even better for them, because you can take on the role of babysitter for their children while they continue to live their life uninterrupted. While you’re preoccupied with taking care of the kids, you’re less likely to notice their deceitful behaviour or the web of lies they’re weaving behind your back.

To ensnare you, they will shower you with affection and attention, making you feel like the most beautiful and special person in the world. This love-bombing phase is meticulously calculated. In fact, research suggests that most people in relationships with narcissists report being overwhelmed by intense affection at the start, only to later realise it was all part of a manipulation strategy. 

However, the affection is never genuine. The same sweet words, grand gestures, and promises have been used on every person they’ve been in a relationship with. Once the relationship ends, you’re not just an ex; you’ll be labelled as the “crazy” ex. Narcissists smear their former partners, portraying themselves as the victims of a toxic relationship.

The pattern is clear: you’re not chosen for who you are, but for how effectively you can be manipulated and used.