Bipolar Mum Journey

Recently, a woman reached out to me through my blog, sharing that she too had suffered at the hands of my ex. All I want is to live my life and forget about this man, but for 15 years, he has dragged me through every court case involving his latest spouse. Despite presenting evidence of his abuse, the courts allow him to evade consequences by moving to different jurisdictions, where he continues to harm vulnerable women.

Now that our son is 18, I have had no choice but to start a blog and share my story with podcasters. I am tired of my ex using my story against me.

This man is cruel and manipulative. He has turned our son against me and encouraged him to extort money from my 97-year-old adoptive grandmother.

For 15 years, I fought in court for contact with my son. Every time I was granted contact, my ex would move to avoid court dates. His girlfriend abused our son, and I have a large social service report documenting this. Social services should have returned my son to me when I was released from prison when he was 4 years old, so he could have had a loving life with my partner of 15 years and our children.

Instead, when my ex split with his girlfriend, he abandoned our 13-year-old son on my doorstep. Our son was clearly traumatised and did not know who I was. He became cruel and manipulative towards his siblings, forcing me to demand his father take care of him and get him into counselling so we could build a healthy relationship.

My ex was unhappy with this arrangement as it disrupted his plans with his latest girlfriend. He cut off contact again. When our son turned 16, he reached out to my sister regarding my mother’s death, a woman who loved him deeply but had also been cut off by my ex when our son was 4. I allowed him to attend the funeral, and it went well. However, when I returned for his birthday with his siblings, he snapped again. I later discovered he only wanted to see me to get his savings, which I had saved for him until he turned 18.

I love my son, but he has been poisoned against me by my ex and his numerous girlfriends. Neither of us stood a chance. This situation saddens me deeply, and I hope my son can build a life for himself once he is free from his father’s influence. My ex, now on his seventh girlfriend and with yet another child, continues to cause harm, having recently led his ex to lose her children. The authorities can’t stop him because he keeps moving.

I want to move on with my life, but two weeks ago, I received a phone call from out-of-hours social services asking if I knew where my ex and our son were. God only knows what they have done now, when will I be free…