Bipolar Mum Journey

I’ve noticed that some people expect me to take certain positions or join certain movements in how I speak out about my own experiences with sexual assault. But I’ve come to realise that there are some aspects of this conversation I can’t support.

First, I won’t contribute to a culture that views men as inherently harmful, nor will I support the approach of publicly naming individuals online without going through the proper legal channels. While sharing personal stories of sexual assault can be empowering and healing, I believe it’s essential to consider the consequences of publicly accusing someone without a legal foundation. Accusations, whether true or not can destroy reputations and lives, and in the absence of due process, they can perpetuate a cycle of hurt.

As a mother raising sons and a partner to a man, I think about how I’d feel if someone made serious claims against them in a public forum without involving the authorities first. If someone were to make such an accusation about them, it would be devastating not only for them but also for our entire family. And as difficult as it may be, I believe that victims deserve to have their voices heard in a way that both protects their own rights and adheres to a process that safeguards against harm to innocent people.

I know that coming forward and reporting sexual assault can be incredibly difficult, and there’s no “one way” to heal from such trauma. But I believe that when someone is ready, going to the police or other official support systems can be a constructive step. There, evidence can be gathered and justice pursued without immediately risking a reputation in ways that can’t be undone.

Sexual assault is a profound violation, and victims deserve our compassion, respect, and support. They deserve justice, and it’s only right that justice is sought through appropriate and reliable channels and not social media!