Bipolar Mum Journey

In the UK, the legal system favours men – anyone who says otherwise clearly hasn’t been through the family courts. I have. For years, I’ve dealt with court cases involving my abusive ex and our son. More recently, I was dragged into another case involving his most recent ex. And guess what? The court sided with him both times. Why? Because he’s manipulative and knows how to play the system.

Now he’s had a fourth child, this time with a woman he barely knows, someone else he clearly deceived. He only did it because he knew charges were being brought against him for the serious injuries he caused his ex, and he wanted to avoid prison. So he tried to create the image of a stable family man. It partly worked. He was found guilty and got a restraining order, but he stayed out of prison.

He was allowed to keep our son because he was over 16, and I couldn’t take him. Years of manipulation meant I hadn’t been allowed to build any kind of bond with him. Now, that son resents the three children I have with my partner. That’s the damage this man has done. His ex had all her children removed because he painted her as unstable, playing on her documented mental health history, history he was fully aware of. This, even after he beat her badly enough to put her in hospital.

Don’t tell me the courts side with women. I’m tired of abusive men crying victim, pretending they’ve been wronged by the system. I see men like this screaming their innocence online, it just makes them look guilty. I waited 20 years to clear my name. I never once went online to beg for sympathy. If people thought I randomly stabbed my kid’s dad for no reason, so be it. I knew the truth. And sure enough, that same man went on to hurt woman after woman, just as I knew he would.

Which brings me to James English and his endless whining about “what men go through.” Poor James, right? Spare me. Ever been raped, James? Beaten? Controlled? No? Then maybe sit this one out. Your posts reek of guilt, whether you realise it or not. You’d have been better off keeping quiet.

And here we are again, hypocrisy everywhere. Even some women picking and choosing which abusers they want to condemn. Strange how it’s never the famous ones. Or the white ones.